Once you've found and married your true love in Stardew Valley, you'll be able to have kids. You're limited to a maximum of two kids, and there are some things you'll need to do before the game gives you the option at all.
Never fear — when it comes to having children, Stardew Valley makes it much easier than real life. For everything you need to know about getting married, what to expect when you're expecting, and how children behave in-game, look no further than this guide. We will explain how to have kids in Stardew Valley and much more.
Updated January 17, 2022: Having children in Stardew Valley can be an utter delight, and in order to further illustrate how to reach the joys of parenthood in the game, we've added a video guide to this article.
What You Need To Know About Children
There are a couple of things to know about having kids in Stardew Valley:
- You're limited to two kids — one boy and one girl. The first child can be either a male or a female (selected at random), and the second will be whichever one you didn't get the first time.
- They grow up over time, but they stop at the toddler stage and never age past it.
- You'll always be presented with the option to have children, and they'll never be a surprise.
- Finally, you are able to have children whether you are in an opposite- or same-gender partnership.
- If you are married to someone of the opposite gender, you'll have kids, and if you're married to someone of the same gender, you'll adopt.
- This guide will refer to both having and adopting children as "having" for ease of reading.
You'll need to meet certain criteria before the game lets you add kids to your family. The requirements are as follows:
- Be married for at least seven days
- A 10-heart friendship level (at least) with your spouse
- A farmhouse upgraded twice that contains a nursery with a crib
- (there is a renovation that allows you to remove the crib, which will also remove the ability to have children)
How to Get Married
Getting married in Stardew Valley is pretty straightforward, but it does take some time.
Once you've reached a friendship level of eight hearts with a marriage candidate, you can purchase a bouquet from Pierre's General Store. When you give it to your beloved, the two of you will enter a relationship and your heart level will be unlocked, allowing you to level it up to 10 hearts.
When you reach 10 hearts, you'll be able to purchase a Mermaid's Pendant from the Old Mariner, who shows up on the east side of the Beach (you'll need to upgrade the broken bridge with 300 wood if you haven't already) when it rains. He'll only sell it to you if you've upgraded your house to have a kitchen (the first upgrade).
Give the Mermaid's Pendant to your partner and your wedding will take place three days later. You'll need to be married for a week before the option opens up to have kids, given that the other requirements are met as well.
Maintaining Friendship With Your Spouse
Unlike the other villagers, your friendship level with your spouse will always decay over time. Luckily, it's pretty easy to keep it at 10 hearts (or higher).
Ensure that you speak to them most days, if not every day. Give them gifts they like when possible, and don't do things that upset them (like giving them hated gifts or hitting them with a slingshot). This should keep your heart level at 10 hearts or more, which is required to have kids.
Upgrading Your Farmhouse
The final thing you need in order to have children is an upgraded farmhouse. The first upgrade adds a kitchen and allows you to get married, but you'll need to upgrade it a second time to unlock children. The second upgrade adds a nursery with a crib and two single beds.
The first upgrade costs 10,000 gold and 450 wood. It'll take Robin three days to finish. Next, you'll need 50,000 gold and 150 hardwood for the second upgrade and nursery, which will also take three days.
Once all of these criteria are met, you will be able to have kids. At night, there is around a 5% chance that your spouse will ask if you want kids.
|Saying Yes: If you agree to have kids, the baby will be born or the adoption process will finish 14 days later. When you wake up on the fourteenth day, there will be an infant in the crib.|
|Saying No: You can say "not now" without consequence. Your spouse will simply accept your answer, go to sleep, and maybe ask at a later date, so long as the requirements are still met.|
How to Have Kids in Stardew Valley Multiplayer
If you are playing a multiplayer/co-op file, and you marry another player, you can still have children. It works a little differently, though.
The main player will be asked randomly if they want to have a child, similar to the query when married to an NPC. If they say yes, the farmhand will then be asked as well. If they say yes as well, the child appears in the same way as normal.
If either one of you says no, you will not have a child.
Once You Have Children
Children go through four "stages" as they grow up. From the second stage onward, you can interact with your kid(s) to level up your friendship with them.
|Stage 1||At first, your baby will remain in the crib, asleep, for 14 days after they arrive. When you interact with them, it will just give you a message stating that they are sleeping.|
|Stage 2||After those 14 days, the child will reach the next stage of their development. They'll stand up in the crib, and you'll be able to interact with them by tossing them in the air playfully. This will give you friendship points.|
|Stage 3||Another 14 days later, your kid will finally start to leave the crib. They'll crawl around your house and interact with toys. This period lasts 28 days, or one full season.|
|Stage 4||This is the fully-grown stage, and the kids will never progress past it. In this stage, they're toddlers, and they run around the house. You can interact with them to raise your friendship level further|
You will be able to have a second child after your first one reaches the final stage and begins sleeping in one of the beds in the nursery, as the crib will now be free.
There are some differences in how friendship works when it comes to your own kids. First, they cannot be given gifts, and the friendship points you earn or lose at the Luau and from the Bulletin Board Bundle do not affect your relationship with your kids.
However, unlike your spouse, your friendship level with your kids will not decay once it reaches 10 hearts, like the other villagers.
If you decide you don't want your kid(s) anymore, you can "dismiss" them. To do this, you'll need to have completed either the Community Center or Joja route, finished the Dark Talisman quest for the Wizard, and unlocked access to the Witch's Hut.
Inside the Witch's Hut, there are three shrines. One is called the Dark Shrine of Selfishness. By presenting a Prismatic Shard to this shrine, you can "dismiss" your children, which will turn them into doves and remove them from your family.
|Note: There is no way to reverse this once it is done, but it will allow you to have more children in the future.|
You should know that, if you're not a fan of creepy stuff, there are some scary things that happen after you dismiss children.
First, you'll receive a phone call (if you have a phone) that seems to come from your abandoned kids. It will have an "otherworldly voice" that says "YOU HAVE FORSAKEN US."
Second, you'll encounter an Ancient Doll depending on which farm layout you have. If you have the Standard Farm, you'll see a weird channel on the TV on Fall 26. Selecting it will show an Ancient Doll that says "You've brought this upon yourself... now I'm free... Hee hee hee!" It will then pop out of the TV like the girl from the Ring. If you have the Four-Corners Farm, you might fish up an Ancient Doll when fishing on the farm.
After you've encountered the Ancient Doll, a cursed one will show up at the Witch's Hut and fly around, attacking you. Once you kill it, it will turn into a bird and leave. But, it will respawn every time you enter the hut. It does count for the Bats section of the Monster Eradication Goals, though.
Amazingly, you can put hats on your kids. Simply select the hat in your inventory and interact with your kids, the same way you place a hat on your horse or place produce into machines.
If you decide to have Krobus move in, rather than getting married, you cannot have children with him. However, if you have children from a previous marriage, Krobus will help raise them.
Finally, you may spot your spouse with your kids in tow at various town festivals!
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